Step One - Hire a bulldog lawyer who will:
Tell you he'll/she'll get you everything that you want ...
Tell you that you have a winning case...
Tell you he/she settles most cases - but will file an action for divorce before ever trying to reach an agreement outside of court...
This will ensure that you pay thousands of dollars in motion fees asking the judge to make temporary decisions such as how the bills will be paid and when the children will be sleeping in your home. It will also ensure that you and your spouse are adversaries for the next couple of years and will need lawyers to do most of the communicating between the two of you.
Step Two - Don't explore mediation or collaborative divorce: Why would you want that? What will you have to add to the conversation when your friends complain about how badly their divorces are going?
Step Three - Fight for your principles: Principles are the best way to make sure you spend exorbitant amounts of money on expert and lawyers fees. Principles are also a great way to prevent long-term compromise that will make sense a few years down the road.
Step Four - Listen to the Greek Chorus: The Greek Chorus is always there to help set you back, whether it's by trash talking your spouse or making you second guess all your choices.
Step Five - Insist on having your day in court: By having your day in court you're going to tell your story to the judge. You want that judge to hear everything that your spouse did wrong, and rightfully so. You will have years to hone your argument and gather more evidence, in addition to the opportunity to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on legal and expert fees while you wait for that special day.
FIVE STEP PROGRAM TO LITIGATION
"War does not determine who is right - only who is left."
"Never stir up litigation. A worse man can scarcely be found than one who does."
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