"You have your way, I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way and the only way, it does not exist."
If you and your partner need more support in resolving issues, a mediator acts as a neutral third party to facilitate the kitchen table discussion. A mediator is trained in managing power imbalances and can facilitate in situations where there is some power imbalance. However, if bargaining power is too uneven, you may need the support of an advocate through the course of the mediation. A mediator can give both parties general legal information, but cannot provide legal advice to either party. Both parties should go to their own lawyers to get independent legal advice. This can occur simultaneous with the mediation or, after the mediator prepares a memorandum of understanding. In either situation, the lawyers are not centrally engaged in the process of negotiating to reach a settlement.